Over my lifetime I have come, to my surprise, notice that our abilities to make judgements with regards of other people is shockingly bad. When reading Shakespeare’s Timon of Athens, a book about a generous man whom people loved and cherished as long as he doted on them but when he hits hard times turn their backs and mocked him, I thought this message is simple and obvious and not worth the X amount of pages which Shakespeare uses (as he usually does) to make some point which could be made in less than half of the pages used. However, even though it is so obvious, scornfully obvious, it seems that we, and I, do not learn from this obviousness.
In times of hardship, is seems that, those that one may expect most to stand by them desert them and those one may least expect become one’s rallying cry. Usually the people who stand the firmest are the most surprising as they are those whom one may have spent the least time engaging with (probably why, as they say, people like you until they get to know you!).
Too many people live in their own dogmatic worlds. You ask them to do something, they offer a counter, you explain how you want it done and then they ignore you and go, ‘ah, I did it the way I thought best forgetting you didn’t want it like that, I don’t wish to redo it so is it ok?’ meaning one, usually, acquiesces. This lack of attention to others is why tragedies can happen- Nazism, Trumpism, Brexit, Taylor Swift etc but what is it that makes people, the people you may least expect, want to stand by you?
Maya Angelou once wrote ‘I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.’ and this, I feel (tee hee), is the key. Ultimately what one does in this blink of an eye which we call life (John Mellencamp (not worth looking up) said ‘Life is short, even in its longest days’) does not matter, in a thousand years we’ll all be forgotten, dust in the wind and, as the great Achilles found, there is no glory in death and yet this doesn’t matter. Some of the great philosophers were wealthy men who could dedicate their lives to their work, others not so wealthy who lived off ‘the kindness of strangers’ and yet others such as Aesop was a slave and yet one can argue that the fables of Aesop are as profound as any written by men of leisure, if not more so, and it does not matter that he was a slave and Plato was an aristocrat for what matters is the how the work makes you feel, not the person who wrote its position in life but rather their position in your heart.
On a personal note I would like to thank you (singular?) for your continued readership of my little dusty corner on the shelf. Would I do this even if no one read? Probably, I have over a year’s worth discarded as a more exciting butterfly drifted across my limited attention span, but that anyone finds the time to read these words means the world to me, so thank you and I’ll leave you with the words of the only person to ever deserve the prefix Dr
Be who you are and say what you feel,
Because those who mind don’t matter
And those who matter don’t mind
(Dr Suess)
Happy Christmas/Hanukkah/Day Off Work/New Year/Etc to you all!
‘till next time
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