Yet again, I find myself at a crossroads. The Italian poet Dante opened his Divine Comedy with the lines:
IN the midway of this our mortal life,
I found me in a gloomy wood, astray
Gone from the path direct: and e’en to tell
It were no easy task, how savage wild
That forest, how robust and rough its growth,
Which to remember only, my dismay
Renews, in bitterness not far from death.
Yet to discourse of what there good befell,
All else will I relate discover’d there.
How first I enter’d it I scarce can say,
Such sleepy dullness in that instant weigh’d
My senses down, when the true path I left,
But when a mountain’s foot I reach’d, where clos’d
The valley, that had pierc’d my heart with dread,
I look’d aloft, and saw his shoulders broad
Already vested with that planet’s beam,
Who leads all wanderers safe through every way.
As the preface to which is a pleasant little walk through Hell, Purgatory before entering into Heaven. Unfortunately, unlike Dante, the crossroads I find myself at are not a precursor to a delightful little stroll, getting to chat to some interesting folk along the way, ending up in the realms of bliss
(All at once, my will and desire
Were being moved like a wheel,
All at one speed,
By the Love which moves
The Sun and other stars)
rather they could go on to shape the next stages of my life. The question that must be asked at this juncture is the rather predictable, does it matter? These decisions, whilst important to me, are not life and death decisions- it may be possible to correct them, and maybe, what to me is a wrong step, may be the right step in the great scheme of things which we cannot see, i.e. my life, and, actually of possible consequence- existence pre and post historical.
One thing which we often hear is that ‘everything happens for a reason’. I, personally, disagree with this and state that nothing has an inherent reason but reason can be found in all that happens (if you want to find it). But, let’s think about this logically. If the next step I take is fated then that would be swell, if it is not fated then, well, what difference would it make? Whether or not we are the play things of the gods is completely and utterly irrelevant (unless of course the gods actively try to shape our lives ala mythology) when it comes to our lives. As we cannot see the great arch of Time (before and after Time itself) we cannot know whether what we do will echo through history and shape who we are, our defining moment (in all fairness our most ‘defining moment’ (to use my crude phrase) happened billions of years before were born, maybe even before the Big Bang without which I would not be sat here thinking this, nor you reading it).
Not only can we not know the future’s significance we also cannot see the significance of Now, let alone the Past. Is what I am doing now of any great significance? Is the past? Sorry to disappoint psychologists everywhere but we cannot attribute great powers of clarity to ourselves, let alone to our perception of the past, present or future. The great Marcel Proust stated that the only paradise is a paradise which has been lost, acknowledging that the past often didn’t happen as we remember it. But how does this help me with my predicament? Well, for one thing is dissuades the illusion that there are only two paths that I can take, there are in fact more than I can comprehend, after all we have no idea if life and death are even binary states or the beginning or ending of anything! The great Dr Seuss wrote:
‘You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You’re on your own. And you know what you know. And YOU are the one who’ll decide where to go…’
(-you know the author…)
So, yes, although some paths we want to take may be closed off, some valleys to dark to cross, ultimately it is me who decides what path to take, not always in terms of the road but in terms of my thoughts* so one should go boldly on, regardless of fate or not, but keep in mind the words of another wise man,
‘It’s a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don’t keep your feet, there’s no knowing where you might be swept off to.’
So, there’s nothing more to do than to bid you adieu for another week, safe in the knowledge that you and I will meet again although I know neither when or where!
‘till next time
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*a slight caveat for a wider context- how do we know our thoughts and emotions are ours and not shaped by society? Regardless, whether they are fundamentally our own or shaped, we still have control over them
p.s. as I was writing this, I remembered the story, The ‘Appointment in Samarra’ by John O’Hara, of a man (to tell my own version of the story) to whom it was foretold that he would die that day. As he went about the day, he kept his eye open for Death. As he turned a corner, he saw Death and Death looked surprised. The man thought ‘ah, I know where Death is so I can cheat him!’ and so fled to another town. That evening he felt a tap on his shoulder and there was Death. When the man asked him why he had seemed so surprised earlier, Death replied, ‘I knew I had a date with you here tonight, so I was surprised to see you in the other city’