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Walking back to happiness, woopah oh yeah yeah
Said goodbye to loneliness, woopah oh yeah yeah
I never knew I’d miss you
Now I know what I must do
Walking back to happiness
I shared with you (yay, yay, yay, yay ba dum be do)
(Walking Back to Happiness- Michael Hawker / John Francis Schroeder)
One question which has plagued humans since, well one must assume, the birth of civilisation brought about by the advent of agriculture and the settling down as communities, is, What is Happiness? This question has tormented some of the greatest minds of all time, many of whom have attempted to answer the question, plus not so great minds who have likewise indulged in speculation.
One reason why this question has never been answered comes from definition. No one has defined a universal notion of what it means to be happy. If one was to ask 100 people to define what makes them happy then, along cultural lines, one would expect to find differences. I use the notion ‘along cultural lines’ to suggest that different cultures have their own notion of what makes one happy. For some it might be the acquisition of wealth and fame, for others it may be seeing one’s child go through the initiation rights of one’s tribe. And yet, despite the cultural differences, there underpins it a single, universal, notion.
Often, notions of success are linked to the concept of achievement, of having accomplished something. For one, becoming famous would suggest that one’s desire to be known has come true and thusly the phrase ‘achieved fame’ is apt. For another, seeing one’s child pass through trials and becoming a fully-fledged member of a community reflects upon the parent/guardian as having achieved the raising of a child to such a recognised level within the community. Thusly, we can say that having achieved the stated goals, the person is happy. However, this happiness is often fleeting. Once the moment has passed and the pride one feels passes, one feels unhappy again. This has given rise to the notion that happiness is like a stranger in the night just passing by. This, I would argue, is because this notion of happiness, e.g. fame and social standing, are not happiness, rather they are just pride, something many theologies see as a sin. Why is this? One can speculate that the need to ‘achieve’ fame or social standing stems from insecurities rather than some deeper search for happiness.
You might be now thinking, if these notions of happiness are not actually happiness, then how would you define happiness? For me, the search for happiness is a contradiction in terms for as with many things, if you seek it, you will not find it as we do not know what we are searching for. Thusly we have a paradox for how can we find that which we do not know? This is beautifully illustrated by A.A. Milne and his protagonist Pooh bear’s search for a Heffalump. A Heffalump is a scary animal which plagues the dreams of Pooh bear and Piglet. And so they dig a trap to catch the Heffalump. However, as they do not know what they are trying to catch, they cannot catch it and if they did catch it, they would not know if they had caught it or not and so is the same with happiness. We do not know what it is ergo we cannot know if we have caught it or not.
If, from this, we can draw the conclusion that happiness cannot be found without, we are forced to consider whether happiness stems from within. Yes, the within can be influenced by the without, however, when push comes to shove, it is the internal forces that drive us.
If we can look at the previous two examples; fame and social standing, and look at the crux of them, maybe we can deduce the basis of why they make people think that they are happy. It comes from a sense of self, a sense of having self-actualised one’s internal desires. By wanting to feel good about one’s self, the individual has looked without for the source to make them feel good within. By seeing their desires manifest externally they can feel that thy have achieved their internal needs. Yet this happiness would be dependant upon external sources and therefore it can be taken away as quickly as it is given for fame and social standings are illusions like houses on the seashore built upon a foundation of sand. It would then suggest that to be ‘happy’ one must find that happiness from within and so the self-actualisation must stem from an internal source. This, as you can imagine, is a very long and hard destination to arrive at and so many who try to seek happiness find themselves buying into lies and the illusions of happiness. This can take many forms, alcohol, drugs, being promiscuous, and, yes, fame and social standing. As none of these provide a firm foundation, one becomes addicted to them and the desire becomes a need and thusly their lives are spent, not in the search for happiness but rather running away from happiness.
‘till next time and part 2
Happy New Year!